Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Love and the Bigger Girl



Some guys just love women who have more to grab, there is no denying it, everyone has a type, bones are not in style for every man.  That  belief definitely stems from a myth made up by skinny supermodels.

Do some men have ulterior motives for dating a plumper woman?  Of course they do, they have motives for every and everything.  These women are prime targets for men who prefer their ladies taking care of the bills.  She gives up the cash willingly in exchange for his time and love and the arrangement works out well for everyone involved?

Sometimes she gets her feelings hurt because the need for love is never actually requited.  She lives with the dog, even turning her own house into a comfy kennel for him and his pack.  She is disrespected by his crude remarks but she still clings to every drop of his attention, when again would she find another to accept her?

I overheard an older man saying one day that he doesn't" pay for sex, if he really wants it America is full of big girls."  He said in a slick voice full of the confidence of a man who had done the deed himself a thousand times.   I felt disgusted by his open admittance in using these women, I don't think anyone  woman deserves that from a man.

Do some women promote this kind of behavior?  Sure they do, they willingly go along with these arrangements just for a taste of attention, no different from the unattractive man who pays for the attention of attractive women.  Some are doing it just to show the outside world that Big girls can get it too, they build up a false self esteem and lie to themselves about the way they feel about their bodies.

Everyone was made beautifully, your love should  always reflect that.

What He Wants





The dating rules between black men and women are very complicated and it doesn't seem to be getting any easier.  They seem to have all these ideas about what a woman should do, how she should act and how she can prove that she loves him.  The list could go on and on about all his requirements, cook clean, take care or kids, sex constantly flowing and make money too.

Some seem to have the need for a vagina they can occupy at all ungodly hours of the night, sometimes even day!  They don't actually care if you can walk and talk at the same time, a brain is not required, simple availability is all they need from you.   They expect the woman to be a booty call and an in house call girl service all wrapped up in one.

Some just want to pay for the transaction so it is straight forward, and they can get exactly what they want.  They seek these arraignments from women who make a de facto career based on this system that has existed from the beginning ot time. 

Do black men really date their women?  Do they have plans for marriage sometime in their future?  Or do they just want to play the game to get the goods until they get old ?